Beginners Guide to BDSM

So you’re curious about bondage... maybe you’ve seen a few photos on Instagram that have perked your attention… what would it be like to be tied up… spanked… maybe it’s time to enter into the world of bdsm and bondage…

 
 
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What is BDSM?

Ok. Let’s start with the basics. BDSM is an abbreviation for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masohism! Alarmed? Well don’t be. BDSM certainly doesn’t have to be extreme, so forget the Sadism bit!

Bondage generally means tying your partner up and providing pleasure using various instruments such has spanking paddles, whips, butt plugs and a range of other goodies. The “D” in BDSM refers to discipline or if you prefer Dominance of the other party.

By getting tied up you surrender power to the other person. That person can the provide you with pleasure or a little pain, whatever you prefer.

The main thing about Bondage & BDSM is that both parties should enjoy the experience. At OhSoKinky, we believe that a good bondage session is great for the soul and can bring a new spark to a possibly, tiring relationship.

As some say, don’t knock it, till you’ve tried it!


Toys for Beginners

A massive range of toys are available for the beginner to start their BDSM journey. Most couples already probably have the basic “Spanker” secretly hidden under the bed. The Spanker is a BDSM staple and comes in various shapes and sizes from short whips to horse whips and from heart shaped paddles to 3-pronged leather monsters!

After the spankers come the restraints. For most couples, the restraints of choice are the padded hand cuffs and ankle cuffs. These can be cheap and cheerful or be made from the finest leather with sumptuous padding. These are great for new couples experimenting with bondage. If these are too comfortable for you, you could always try metal handcuffs!!!

Handcuffs, ankle cuffs and under the bed restraints provide the basis for a good whipping session (consensual of course)! or you could opt for a full bondage kit.

Add sensory deprivation with a nice silk blindfold and combined with a feather tickler, you and your partner will have a fantastic evening of romance. Or you could go for a full bondage kit.

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The Adventurous

For those looking for something a bit more extreme there is an endless range of possibilities in the BDSM arena ranging from the exciting to the possibly dangerous.

There are a variety of clubs in the UK were you can have fun with BDSM such as Edinburgh Dungeon and the swinging club, CJ’s in Glasgow.

At OhSoKinky we always promote safety first so if you are not comfortable with something then don’t do it and ALWAYS listen to you partner.

What ever you do, don’t try to create a home-made sex contraption. This type of BDSM experimentation could prove costly!!!

Our advice is - join in - have fun - spice up your relationship - play safe